How do you find forgiveness and to forgive the person who hurt you. I’ve tried so many ways but aim hoping to learn not to hate I don’t like the person I’ve become. Please help.
I asked a question about forgiveness but if I don’t forgive before I die, I want to know will God take me home?
We all make mistakes, and most of us struggle with feelings of anger towards those whom we feel have wronged us. Life is a challenging journey and it is sometimes difficult to keep moving forward on that “straight and narrow path” (see Matthew 7:14). It takes time and we can’t expect to be ready for our final destination without traveling the “path”. We just need to do our best to keep learning and learning to live by the example of our Redeemer, Jesus Christ. If we do so with a firm desire to feel our Heavenly Father’s love and to dwell with Him, the Lord, through his atonement can make up for our short comings.
Being able to forgive those who trespass against us, however, is certainly an important key to our being ready to dwell with our Heavenly Father. It is emphasized as part of and is explained immediately following the Lord’s Prayer in Matthew 6th chapter verses 9 through 13 and as dealt with specifically in verses 12, 14 and 15:
And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors…For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
The Lord further emphasizes the rationale of forgiveness in this parable:
21¶Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? 22Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. 23¶Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. 24And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. 25But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. 26The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. 27Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt. 28But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellow servants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest. 29And his fellow servant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. 30And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt. 31So when his fellow servants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done. 32Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: 33Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellow servant, even as I had pity on thee? 34And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. 35So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses. (Matthew 18:21-35)
There are several other passage such as this:
And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses. (Mark 11:15)
As important as is our being willing and able to forgive, receiving forgiveness from the Lord for our sins requires more than just being able to forgive. We must desire to dwell with God enough to seek to understand and to live according to His will and to exercise enough faith in Jesus Christ to repent of our sins, be baptized for the remission of our sins and receive the gift of the Holy Ghost by the laying on of hands of one holding true priesthood authority (see Acts 2:38). By thus following Jesus, we can be assured that we will be able to find the strength and the nature to forgive all men of any trespass. We must then endure to the end of our lives as a true follow of Christ. His atoning sacrifice will thus become effectual in our behalf and we will be saved in the Kingdom of our Heavenly Father.
But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved. (Matthew 24:13).
I hope that you will pray for the courage to seek the true gospel of Jesus Christ and then live by it so you can forgive and be forgiven and dwell with our Heavenly Father for all eternity. I hope you will ask a question or questions about how to find that true gospel and let me share with you my beliefs about that.