Hi Donny. Growing up, I was never raised as any particular religion, just to be a good person and treat others well. I am grateful for this, as it allowed me to form my own opinions about what I believed. Today I was reading the “My Beliefs” section on the website and it really spoke to me. So I firstly wanted to say thank you, because this is something I plan on seriously looking into.
So anyway, here is my question. I decided when I was 17 or so, that waiting until marriage was something I wanted to do. I am 24 now and have been in a relationship for a year and a half. I love him, but I feel a lot of pressure from both him and myself about sex and other physical things. He says it’s fine for us to not rush into anything, but he doesn’t seem to take the fact that I want to wait very seriously. He also doesn’t believe in God at all, and this is something I find difficult to deal with. I feel pressure from myself, because everyone I know is having sex or has had sex, and keeps telling me it’s not a big deal and that I am setting myself up for disappointment. Part of me just wants to get it over with so I can feel normal, but the rest of me wants so badly to remain pure until marriage, and to wear a white wedding dress and know what it represents. So, I wondered what your opinion was on waiting until marriage to have sex, and also what you think I should do about showing my boyfriend that I am serious about my pledge.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I love you so much.
Our God-given conscience tells us that it is contrary to His will to treat our sexuality with anything but sacred honor and that means that it is preserved for the sanctity of marriage. In the Bible, sex outside of marriage is called fornication. Here are some passages relating to such:
· 1 Thessalonians 4:3
3 For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:
· 1 Corinthians 6:18
18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
· Acts 15:20
20 But that we write unto them, that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and from fornication, and from things strangled, and from blood.
· 1 Corinthians 7:2
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
· Ezekiel 16:26
26 Thou hast also committed fornication with the Egyptians thy neighbours, great of flesh; and hast increased thy whoredoms, to provoke me to anger.
· Romans 1:29
29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
· Matthew 15:19
19 For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:
· Mark 7:21
21 For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders,
“For I, the Lord God, delight in the chastity of women. And whoredoms are an abomination before me; thus saith the Lord of Hosts.” (Book of Mormon – Jacob 2:28)
That this sacred gift between husband and wife would be trodden on as it is in our day was seen by the prophet John:
3 For all nations have drunk of the wine of the wrath of her fornication, and the kings of the earth have committed fornication with her, and the merchants of the earth are waxed rich through the abundance of her delicacies.
To me it is sickening the way so many are mistreating such a sacred thing that should be shared only between husband and wife. I cannot see how a husband or wife could easily live with the thought that his wife or her husband had been engaged in such intimate acts with another.
Please hang in there. You will be greatly blessed for saving this special for the bonds of matrimony.
May I invite you, rather than sifting through the questions and answers in My Beliefs, that you go to What We Believe in the Questions and Answers section and there you will find an online booklet that is intended to systematically go through the basics of our beliefs.
Beyond that, I would be willing to send you a copy of the Book of Mormon, which is the sacred scriptural writings of prophets of God who lived here in Ancient America. It gives the account of Jesus appearing after His resurrection to His people in this land. This record holds the answers to the reason that when the Spanish Conqueror came to the court of the Mexican King Montezuma he was worshipped as the bearded white God who once visited this hemisphere and had promised to return. The Book of Mormon is an important aspect of our faith along with the Holy Bible.
Please stay in touch and let us see if we can help guide you as you “look into” our beliefs. Be sure to be prayerful as you do your search.
Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:
If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.